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Reject Rejections, They’re Just Subjectives

By on January 14, 2014 . Category Column

Subjective: based on or influenced by personal feelings, tastes or opinions.

Before you put pen to paper or finger to keyboard know that writing is subjective. Since creative palettes reflect feelings instead of fact, writers need to brace themselves – not everyone will love what you write.  That doesn’t mean it isn’t good. It just means the way it is received is subjective.

In preparation of facing subjectivity, here are a few pointers:


Don’t get discouraged.
Don’t get defensive.
Grow a thick skin.
Take a step back and listen to the constructive criticisms that make sense.
Believe in yourself.
Trust your instincts.
Take rejections with a grain of salt.


When I first wrote R.J.L.: A Pregnant Memoir I submitted it to a plethora of agents and publishing houses.  In total, I believe I had 60 rejections.  Admittedly, it was incredibly disheartening, because I really thought I had something special.

But before the pity party got out of hand, it dawned on me that, yes, I had 60 rejections, but I had 60 CONFLICTING rejections.  This one thought the memoir was too specific and wouldn’t resonate with a mass audience.  This one thought it wasn’t specific enough for a niche genre.  He liked the first person.  She told me to change it to third person.  There wasn’t a clear consensus.  Why?  Subjectivity.

With a renewed sense of hope, I reedited the book utilizing constructive criticisms and then made the choice to self-publish.  The reception I received from women who had similar experiences proved it did, in fact, resonate.  Overall, I was proud of the end result and learned a valuable lesson… I’m a writer. I write. Therefore, I write on no matter how it’s received.


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